Ethical Non-Monogamy

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is an umbrella term for having multiple relationships that are not monogamous, but are between people who are aware that the other person has other relationships and are consenting to these relationships. This relationship style believes in open, honest, and respectful treatment of all parties involved. ### Types of Ethical Non-Monogamy Common relationship types that fall under ENM include: - Open relationships - Swingers - Cuckolding - Stag/vixen - Hotwife/Hothusband - Polyamory These relationship types are different but everyone involved is aware of what is happening and is consenting to the situation. This is therefore considered ethical compared to when a person has multiple relationships without people knowing, which is commonly known as "cheating." ### Important Concepts in Non-Monogamy Balancing multiple relationships can be difficult, and often involves developing or honing certain skills. Time management, respectful dialogue, and processing emotions (both "good" and "bad") are key concepts of ENM. Many polyamorous writers give wonderful insights into ENM, though typically from a polyamorous lens. Engaging with the kink community is also a great way to learn more about how individuals practice ENM. There is typically no right way, though there can be destructive practices best avoided for healthy relationships. NEVER feel bad for protecting your boundaries and personal well being! ### Ethical vs Consensual Non-Monogamy Consensual non-monogamy (CNM) is sometimes now used instead of the ENM terminology. The main reason for this is that there is an option to not be cheating and still not have everyone be fully aware of everyone. In some eyes that practice is not considered ethical and therefore should not fall under the ENM banner. This discussion includes relationship types like "don't ask, don't tell", "100 miles rule" or "monogamish" as they may or may not fall into the ethical distinction depending on who is asked. Because of the ambiguity of what is ethical and what is not, some people prefer to specify that it is consensual. This moves the concept away from the connection to possible different norms and values that differ from person to person and towards favoring non-monogamous relationships that are consented to by all participants. This is now a more common term in sexology, relationship studies and gender studies due to the more specific definition.