Feedee

In feedism, a feedee is someone who likes being fed by a partner (feeder) erotically, often to excess in service of stuffing their belly, or indulging in foods. In many cases, a feedee also seeks to gain weight. Feedees who don't seek to gain are also known as stuffers. Feedees may find pleasure in the sensation of fullness, attention during feeding, or changes in their body’s shape and size. For some, it’s about nurturing and intimacy. For others, it can involve elements of control, submission, or body worship. ### Why People Are Into It People get into this lifestyle for a number of reasons. Here are a few common ones: ### Control and Surrender Many describe feedee play as a kind of power exchange. Feeders enjoy the act of watching someone indulge, grow, or depend on them for pleasure. Feedees often find excitement in letting go of control and surrendering to appetite. ### Comfort and Indulgence For many feedees, the act of eating itself is pleasurable, comforting, and sensual. ### Body Transformation Some gainers and feedees are drawn to the visual or symbolic transformation of the body as it grows and changes over time. Weight gain becomes a tangible marker of pleasure and dedication, like a visible record of indulgence. ### Voyeurism/Exhibitionism Many participants see feedism not as domination, but as care and intimacy. The act of feeding becomes a form of affection and devotion. ### Identity and Self-Acceptance Becoming a feedee can also help people reframe their relationship with their bodies — embracing fatness, appetite, and self-indulgence in a sex-positive way. For those who’ve internalized shame about weight, feedism offers a space where size is celebrated rather than stigmatized.