Stag

A stag is usually a masculine-identifying person who has sexual interactions with others alongside their partner. Their partner is typically referred to as a vixen. Unlike in cuckolding dynamics, there is no focus on humiliation in a stag and vixen dynamic. A stag may watch, join in, or simply support while their partner (the vixen) is with others. In some cases, the stag is not present at all. Instead, the vixen may share the experience with them afterward. This is usually discussed and agreed on in advance. The third person in this dynamic is sometimes called a "buck." Stags often “reclaim” their vixen after she has been with others. This is a way for them to reconnect as a couple. It can deepen their bond and highlight their trust and devotion to each other. When the gender roles are reversed, the woman who enjoys sharing her partner is called a doe. The male partner is called a reynard. These terms keep the same animal theme, but use different gendered names for each role. ### Origins of the Term A stag refers to a male deer, often associated with strength and virility. A vixen refers to a female fox, and later came to describe a bold or sexually confident woman. In kink and non-monogamy communities, the terms appeared to have emerged in the late 2010s to describe a shared dynamic between partners. They became popular as an alternative to older terms like “cuckold” and “hotwife,” which carry different connotations. ### Stag Statistics - One in five people report having been in a consensually non-monogamous relationship at some point in their lives. - 4-9% of adults in the U.S. are in open relationships right now. - There are more than 550 groups and 3,900 group posts discussing stags on FetLife. ### Why People Are Into It People are into this dynamic for different reasons. Here are a few common ones: ### Trust In the stag/vixen dynamic, both partners agree on what's happening. This can create a strong sense of openness and honesty. ### Excitement Adding in a new partner is a way to add novelty and anticipation. Some people enjoy the thrill of the unexpected, as well as indulging in something outside the "norm." ### Confidence A stag may feel pride in their partner and how desirable she is to others. The vixen may also feel attractive and empowered as a result of being the center of two partners' attention. ### Power or Control In some dynamics, one partner leads or sets the rules. The vixen may lead, choosing partners and setting the pace. Or the stag may lead, directing who, when, and how interactions occur. This can tie into dominance, submission, or service. ### Compersion Some people love seeing their partner experience pleasure, even if they aren't a part of it.