Pegging

Pegging is a form of anal sex in which one partner uses a strap-on dildo to anally penetrate the other partner. This term was originally used to describe a straight woman penetrating a straight man. Over time, it has been used more broadly to describe strap-on anal sex between partners of any gender or orientation. The penetrating partner is sometimes called the “pegger,” and the receiving partner the “peggee.” The terms top and bottom are also used. ### Origins of the Term The term "pegging" was coined in 2001 when sex advice columnist Dan Savage held a contest in his Savage Love column asking readers to name the act (which previously lacked a consistent name). Readers voted, and “pegging,” which became the winning term, beating out other suggestions like “bob” and “punt.” Savage’s effort to name this act was prompted by the increasing visibility of strap-on anal play (for example, the 1998 “Bend Over Boyfriend” video, an instructional video featuring Dr. Carol Queen and Robert Morgan). Since then, pegging has gained mainstream recognition, appearing in media and even being included in dictionaries. ### Why People Are Into It People practice pegging for all kinds of reasons. Here are a few: ### Physical Pleasure Pegging can be highly pleasurable for both the receiver and the giver. For the receiving partner, anal penetration stimulates sensitive nerve endings in the anus – an area rich in nerves for people of any gender. Many people with prostate glands find pegging especially enjoyable because it provides direct prostate stimulation, which can lead to intense orgasms. (This is why it’s sometimes called the “male G-spot!”) For those without a prostate, anal play can also produce powerful sensations and orgasms thanks to the sensitivity of the anus, and its proximity to the G-spot. The partner wearing the strap-on may also derive physical pleasure. Some strap-on kits include vibrators that stimulate the wearer, and many peggers enjoy the erotic excitement of the act itself and their partner’s response. ### Psychological Appeal Pegging is often described as a fun way to reverse traditional roles or explore power dynamics. For example, a person who is usually in the penetrative role may enjoy experiencing the vulnerability of receiving, while the other partner may enjoy the feeling of control or dominance that comes with doing the penetrating. For some, this role reversal can feel like breaking the mold of what sex “should” look like. ### BDSM Pegging can naturally lend itself to D/s dynamics, depending on how it’s framed. The penetrating partner (pegger) may take on a Dominant role, controlling the rhythm, depth, and intensity. The receiving partner (peggee) often embodies submission - physically vulnerable, exposed, and taking direction. However, this isn’t a fixed rule. Power can be fluid. ### Breaking Taboo For some people, enjoying an act that was once considered off-limits can be psychologically empowering. As awareness and acceptance of pegging has grown, so has acceptance that people of any orientation can enjoy anal play. Men, in particular, may feel they are breaking taboo by enjoying pegging or other anal play. ### Safety and Consent Pegging, like any sexual activity, must be consensual and approached with care. Ongoing communication, a safe word, and lots of lube are highly recommended. Here are a few other tips: ### Go Slow & Use Plenty of Lube Safety during pegging is largely about preparation and pacing. The anal sphincter needs time to relax, so take it slow. And use lube! The anus (unlike the vagina) does not self-lubricate itself, so lube is essential. Many couples also find it helpful to warm up with other stimulation, such as rimming or inserting lubricated fingers or a butt plug. Throughout the process, the receiving partner should set the pace – gentle, slow insertion and shallow strokes to start, with constant feedback. Any sharp pain is a sign to stop immediately. Patience is crucial – rushing increases the risk of injury (like anal tears) and can make the experience unpleasant. ### Protection & Hygiene Anal play carries some health considerations, so it’s important to practice safer sex and good hygiene. Using a condom on the dildo is advisable, especially if you plan to move the toy from anal to vaginal use (to prevent transferring bacteria) or if the strap-on might be shared with different partners. Cleaning the toys after pegging is also critical: wash the dildo with warm water and mild soap (or a sex toy cleaner) to remove any bacteria. If the harness itself comes into contact with bodily fluids, clean that as well according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Taking these precautions will reduce the risk of infections or other complications. Finally, aftercare is a good idea once the scene is over – this might include cleaning up together, checking in about how each person felt, and perhaps some cuddling or soothing touch. ### Controversy Some people, especially in queer communities, see the term as homophobic because it treats anal penetration as something “different” when a woman does it. This can reflect the idea that anal play for men is automatically “gay,” and that straight men need a separate label to feel comfortable with it. Some feminists and queer writers also argue that the term reinforces the idea that penetration belongs to men, making women who penetrate seem unusual, abnormal, or out of place. ### Resources - "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino - "The Pegging Book" by Cooper S. Beckett and Lyndzi Miller ### Related Activities - Prostate Milking - Anal Sex - Ass Job - Strap-On Domme - Strap-On