Fantasy Pushing

Fantasy pushing happens when someone involves another person in their sexual thoughts or fantasies without that person’s consent. It can feel invasive or objectifying - especially when it comes out of the blue or isn’t part of an established dynamic. Fantasy pushing can include: - Developing and sharing a kink fantasy that involves someone else. - Making unwelcome and explicit comments about a person. (e.g. “I want to do XYZ to you when you look like that.”) - Using honorifics, such as “baby girl” or “Daddy,” that a person hasn’t agreed to. - Labeling or describing a person with an unwanted sexual label. - Saying that you thought about a person or viewed their image while masturbating. These things aren’t always bad or unwanted - but consent is the key. Some folks love being the center of someone’s fantasy or enjoy explicit comments. Others don’t. What matters is making sure you have the green light before sharing something sexual or intimate. Fantasy pushing is common online - not just in kink spaces - but that doesn’t make it OK. If you’re not sure how someone feels about that kind of interaction, ask first. Respecting boundaries helps keep our communities safer, more welcoming, and more fun for everyone. It’s important to ask other people if they’d like to engage in sexualized messaging before proceeding. This applies even if other people are making sexualized comments about someone in the same thread.